Speaking in Absolutes: A Reminder for Self-Awareness and Growth

(and how self-awareness helps you grow)

“Only Sith Lords speak in absolutes.”
It’s a meme, a Star Wars quote, a pop culture punchline—
but also… a solid callout for anyone working on their mindset.

We all fall into the trap sometimes:
This is good. That is bad. I’m right. They’re wrong.
Absolutism feels powerful.
It offers clarity when the world feels messy.
But it also shuts down conversation, connection, and growth.

Darth Vader’s Trap (and Han Solo’s Lesson)

Here’s the truth:
Nothing is just one thing.
Not people.
Not choices.
Not even you.

Darth Vader fell into the Dark Side by clinging to absolutes.
But Han Solo? He thrives in the gray—
skeptical, scrappy, loyal but questioning.
He reminds us that growth lives in paradox,
not blind allegiance.

Growth Requires the Pause

Real self-awareness kicks in when you feel that flash of judgment—
and instead of doubling down,
you pause.
You breathe.
You ask:

Could the other perspective hold some truth?

That’s not weakness. That’s strength.
That’s making friends with both the light and the dark within you.
That’s higher self work.
And yes—it’s noble.

Even Reverse Role Models Can Teach You

Sometimes growth doesn’t come from mentors.
It comes from watching what not to do.
From noticing how it feels to be in the room with someone who’s always certain,
always right, always absolute.

Catching yourself in that same pattern?
That’s a win.
That’s Covalence: holding opposites without collapsing into one side.

The Covalence Philosophy

At Covalence, we design more than fashion.
We create wearable philosophy—tools to ground you in complexity,
to carry what matters,
to move through a world that is never just one thing.

Absolutism is easy.
Integration is the work.